Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Tell Me THAT Story

My John is so interesting. I've never met anyone like him. He actually learns from stories. He asks me to tell him stories about things all day long. And I try to do just that, just for him. Doesn't matter where we are or what we are doing.

As I place him in his blue bucket swing, under our cedar trees, he says, "Tell me about the little boy (bo-wee) whose mommy is putting him in his swing under his green cedar trees, in his pajamas, and he wants to stand in his swing, not sit. Tell me THAT story." So I make up a story about just that, with a little lesson on how he must sit on the swing so he does not fall out.

As I change his diaper, he says, "Tell me the story of the little boy whose mommy is changing his diaper and gets boom on the sofa because he wouldn't lie still. Tell me THAT story." So I do. Lesson: stay still, with your legs up, so we don't get boom everywhere. AND, when you go boom on the toilet, you don't have to worry about getting it everywhere or lying still while mommy changes your diaper. We're really encouraging using the toilet, since preschool begins in 2.5 short months.

After John hits Baby Joey on the head with his knuckles, he tearfully says, "Tell me the story about the little boy who hits his baby on the head with his knuckles. Tell me THAT story." And so I do, about the nice little boy who loves his baby brother so much that he is just bursting with love and it comes out hard through his fist. And the big boy feels so badly for hurting the baby and making the baby cry. And how the little boy never wants to do that again, never ever. And how the little boy will have to go to time-out if he hits the baby again. Then John puts his face on Joey's head, "giving Joey the love" he says.

When we drive up to our house, John says, "Tell me the story about the little boy who injusts (adjusts) mommy's seat so much that she can't reach the pedals or climb up or sit up straight. Tell me THAT story." So, as he is "injusting" my driver's seat, I laughingly tell him of the fun little boy who moves mommy's seat around so much that I am facing backward and upside-down while I'm driving. And how Johnny pushes a button so that I fly out the roof into the sky. He laughs and laughs, trying to move the seat in every which way. Not all of our stories are serious lesson stories.

The list wonderfully goes on. I'm telling stories every few minutes sometimes, especially when John feels like being naughty, or accidentally is naughty or gets hurt. He really does learn from them, often choosing NOT to repeat the crime or accident (ack-sident).

And he is trying to do funny things, to hear funny stories so he can laugh and laugh. He loves laughing (I have an ultrasound photo of him, laughing in-utero, at about 30 weeks), and he LOVES making Joey laugh. That is often his goal in life. John makes Joey laugh more than anyone else can. John can make eye-contact with Joseph, and Joseph will scream laugh and hide his eyes and face in my chest, then look back at John and laugh some more. When John speaks to Joey, Joey cracks up, no matter what John says. They have a cool connection. They understand each other, without needing to speak. I love watching them. I hope they will be best friends forever, truly.

Tell me THAT story.

2 comments:

  1. That's totally awesome! What a terrific way to amuse and teach him. My now-six-year-old was very much like that and, I'm happy to report, still is. Though I'm not begged for stories quite as often these days, I'd say I'm still making up stories at least once a day - and he, too, learns from them. It's quite amazing, really, isn't it??

    Another thing that's worked really well for us over the years is: I created a little creature out of my index and middle fingers - it's just a little walking character whom Matthew named "Anty." Anty has his own little voice (has had the same voice for 3-4 years already) and Matthew talks with him every day still - it's like Anty is a real and separate creature for both of us and we often have three-way conversations (maybe this is actually a sign of crazy minds. hmm). I've got to tell you, it's AMAZING what Anty can get Matthew to do, especially if there's something I've asked Matthew to do that he doesn't want to do.

    It sounds like John has a GREAT imagination (as well as a big sense of humour), and it's so wonderful how you cultivate that - it takes a ton of patience and good humour to keep telling stories that often!! Good on ya.

    He was seriously laughing in utero (spelling???) ??!!

    Great post!!

    Blessings,

    Ruth

    ReplyDelete
  2. I love his imagination and way of learning! My husband and 2 year old also tell stories back and forth like that. It's so sweet and cute. Thanks for visiting my blog! I really enjoy yours, too!!!!! :)

    ReplyDelete